Do You Know What Body Language Says To Others?

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What body language says to those around you at home, work, functions and events.

Do You Know What Body Language Says To Others?

What Body Language Says

What body language says to others can be life changing, so let’s dig in.
Without saying so much as a single word, we tell the world all about us.
Constantly. This is why body language is so important, in everything you do.
Intimidated? There’s no need to be. Thankfully, body language is relatively simple
to master, once you know four essential things: It is important to improve on these skills.

Posture
We slouch. A lot. Most people don’t have good posture, whether it’s because of
fatigue, habit, or just the way we relax when we’re sitting or standing. What you
need to remember is that poor posture is seen as an indicator of boredom or
disinterest. It’s considered sloppy and unprofessional and definitely lacks
confidence

This is how to fix your posture.

• Pull yourself upright with your chin up and head high.
• Throw your shoulders back a little, but not too far. Enough, so you’re not
  hunched in.
• Your arms should hang loose and casually at your sides.
• If sitting, put both feet firmly on the ground, with legs not crossed or
  tucked away under your chair.
• 
  Gestures
  Arms pressed in tight against your body, or worse, crossed, indicate you’re
  unapproachable, or not ready to communicate. Instead use gestures as you
  speak, engaging not just hands, but your whole arm as well (but not extending
  above the shoulder height).
• Pay special attention to your hands. An open palm, up
  and out is more expansive and open than keeping your hands closed or aimed at
  the floor.
• 
  Eyes
  Eye contact is of such importance a lack of it will actually tank you on a job
  interview. When speaking, it’s even more important to maintain excellent eye
  contact. Make sure you meet the eyes of each person you’re talking to. Not sure
  when to look?
• A quick glance every time you finish making a point keeps you
  informed of whether or not your message is being well received and understood.
  Where not to look? Walls, ceilings…in short, anything that leaves you staring
  somewhere other than the people you’re talking to. Eyes should always be on
  your audience.
• 
  Expression
  Are you smiling? That may or may not be a good thing. Your audience is always
  watching your face, so follow these quick tips for the best success:
• Make sure your face is unobstructed. This means hair neat and back, no
  hands in or on your face.
• Open, genuine expression. Only smile if you’re genuinely feeling it.
  Otherwise, it rings false.
• Keep your face pointed at your audience. Not at the floor, or off to the side.
  These quick tips should be enough to get you on track. Remember, body language
  takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself while learning. It will get more
  natural to the point where it’s second nature, and success is yours

What Body Language Says at Work

Common Body Language Mistakes to Avoid at Work

You thought everything was fine at work. Now you’re caught up in a workplace
drama and have no idea how you got there. What do you do when you’ve been
saying all the right things to the right people and are still up a tree?
Chances are, while the words were great when talking to your coworkers, your
body language wasn’t. Where did you go wrong? I thought I was doing everything right.

You were Slouching
Being slumped over generally means you’re tired, but at work, it’s going to look
like you’re not interested in what’s being said. In the worst-case scenario, you’ll
be perceived as not wanting to do the work, or that you’re unhappy being there.
The solutions? Straighten up, hold your head high with shoulders back!

You Were Off Kilter
Did you know that when you are in a conversation with someone, you
subconsciously mirror their body language? Now imagine what happens in a team
situation if you’re not matching up your actions, tone, or body language with
those around you. Best case, they’ll think you’re not paying attention. Worst?
You’re not a team player. The solution? Pay more attention to the body language
of others to sync your own with theirs. It will help with your interaction with the team.

You Couldn’t Sit Still
People who fuss or fidget during a meeting are seen as disinterested, or even
awkward, lacking in confidence. The solution? The next time you feel an urge to
play with that pen or grab your phone, place your palms flat on the table, sit up
straight and breathe until the feeling passes.

You Weren’t Engaging
When was the last time you had a conversation with a co-worker and were only
half listening to what they said? If you weren’t making all the proper noises in all
the right places, you’re seen as being standoffish and cold, and disinterested in
being a team player. The solution? Lean into the conversation, take part. Smile
and nod or make noises to show you’re paying attention.

You Didn’t Smile
If you’re not given to smiling around the workplace, you’re seen as unhappy to be
there, or as being disinterested in what’s going on around you.

The solution?

Find something to smile about. A fake smile is going to look false, so being able to pull
up a genuine smile will get you far more mileage in the long run.

Paying just a little more attention to your body language and making sure it
matches what you are saying and feeling, will make office interactions go much
more smoothly.

Get The Right Message Across!

Powerful Body Language Tips to Convey the Right Message
You have something important to say, but you’re worried. You’ve given
presentations before, and even talked about this passion in smaller group
settings, but you’ve had mixed results. Sometimes people really seem to ‘get’ you,
but others don’t seem to get the right message.

I am thinking how am I going to get my point across.

The problem very likely lies in your body language. Depending on how your
feeling, or how you’re reacting to your audience, your body language might be
differing greatly from one conversation to the next. How do you get more positive
results where you can come away from a conversation with the assurance your
audience got the right message?

Alignment
How do you stand when talking to someone? If you want to convey that you’re
fully engaged, stand facing the other person completely. If things are getting
tense and need to be defused, angle your body by about 45 degrees and continue
your conversation in this position until things calm down.

Mirroring
People show they’re committed to your way of thinking when they sync up their
body movements to yours. Encourage this by beginning the conversation by
subtly mirroring their movements.

Lean In
To show you’re engaged. Move in towards the other person. Leaning in their
direction as though to hear better, lets the other person know you are interested
in what they are saying.

Gestures
By using smaller, more controlled gestures, you imply you’re in control. At the
same time, make sure those gestures are loose enough, so you don’t give the
impression of being uptight or nervous.

Handshake
A firm, but gentle handshake will always impress.

Blinking
When people are nervous, they tend to blink excessively. Be aware of this. If you
find yourself blinking a lot, focus on relaxing by taking slower, more even breaths.

Modulation
Keep your tone of voice low and even. Talking quickly or in a higher pitched than
usual voice, also convey nervousness. Keep every statement from sounding like a
question.

Smile
A genuine smile will put people at their ease, and often encourage them to smile
in return.

Walk
If you’re up on stage, be sure to move around and not stay in one spot. Shift to a
new position between pertinent points.

Guide
Pull the other person out of a defensive posture by handing them something, a
business card or water bottle. This shifts their perspective as it shifts them
physically.

Making sure your audience heard what you intended for them to hear is the
greatest challenge of any communicator. Using your body language to get your
point across becomes one of the most important tools at your disposal to do just
that.

Aline Your Body Language With Your Message

Ways to Ensure Your Body Language is in Line with Your Message

Not sure your message is getting across? It might be because you’re sending mixed signals. By paying attention to your body language, you can be sure you’re always saying exactly what you intend, both verbally or non-verbally. Follow these quick tips to make sure your body language is in line with your message:

Know What You’re Talking About It’s impossible to convey to the world anything very clearly if you’re not sure what you’re saying in the first place. Your body language will give away your own confusion, and more often than not leave your audience confused as to what you’re trying to convey. This is why it’s so important to settle in your own mind what your goals are before you even begin.

Believe What You Say If you’re not buying what you’re selling, then how in the world do you expect others to believe in you? This means you need to know what you’re talking about, and you need to believe in the words you say. Unsure of the veracity of your message? You’ll need to convince yourself if you expect your body language to sync up.

Take a Minute Body language will look forced if you’re nervous, regardless of what you’re saying. Take a deep breath. Shake out your hands or go into a restroom to regroup if you’re getting overwhelmed. Once calm, continue, knowing your body language will convey this, which will be taken as confidence in your message.

Don’t Oversell the Part Using large, exuberant gestures only makes your body language look insincere and like something out of a melodrama. Keep your movements natural, your gestures slow and easy.

Be Honest How can you expect your body language to say you’re sincere when you’re not? Be authentic in what you’re talking about, and your body will reflect this.

Read the Crowd Learning some of the basics of body language will help you to adjust your own. Pay attention to the signals that someone is losing interest (crossed arms, looking away). These are examples of closed body language, and it shows that something about your message is throwing them off or making them feel anxious. It might be time to adjust what you’re doing to create the incongruency.

Create Rapport Lean in while talking, keep the eye contact at a comfortable level, and encourage your listener to relax into the conversation with you. Once you have rapport between you, you know your message is being listened to in the way you want it to be. In short, if you want your message to be heard and accepted, pay attention to your body language – and theirs. A little effort on your part will go a long way toward creating the situation you desire.

into the conversation with you. Once you have rapport between you, you know your message is being listened to in the way you want it to be. In short, if you want your message to be heard and accepted, pay attention to your body language – and theirs. A little effort on your part will go a long way toward creating the situation you desire.

Improve Reaction With Other With Good Body Language

Body Language Can Improve Success

Body language is what gets you noticed or left by the wayside. A person who
shows they are competent and confident will stand out in every interaction, while
the one who is meek and self-effacing is likely to never be noticed at all.
How then do you use body language to get yourself noticed in all the right ways?

Remember, You’re Superman
If you think of pictures you’ve seen of the comic book hero, Superman, you’ll
likely picture someone standing firmly on two feet, hands on hips, shoulders back,
and head up, every inch the hero.

There is nothing in his posture to imply he’s not
confident and perfectly capable of whatever is thrown his way. Studies prove that
standing in the Superhero pose for a few minutes before a meeting or discussion
you aren’t feeling confident about will change your whole demeanor during the
interaction.

Where’s that Smile?
Things not going well? Try smiling. No fake grin allowed, though. Instead, find a
happy thought and pull out a genuine smile. It will immediately shift your brain
chemistry and put you on a more even keel. Better than that, it’ll likely pull up a
smile from your audience as well.

Play all the Angles
When confrontation brews, it’s time to defuse the situation. Rather than step
back, shift sideways. Oddly enough, a 45-degree angle has the strange effect of
calming people down, mostly because standing fully facing someone can feel
aggressive, and turning away gives the wrong message.

Go for the Quick Charisma Points
Talk with your hands. A lot. Using expansive gestures while talking makes you
more approachable and engaging and wins more support than someone who is
stiff and awkward.

Break Down their Resistance
Talking to someone who is so closed off they’ve got their arms crossed tight
against their chest? Break their pose. Offer them something, a business card or a
bottle of water. Make them shift their position to take it, and they’ll shift their
attitude toward one more favorable to you.

Where’s All that Energy?
Lagging a little? It’s time to dial things up a notch. Focus on a time when you felt
high energy and ready to take on the world. Now channel your energy and bring it
to the conversation. Watch the magic happen.

Don’t Look Away…Mostly
In the course of conversation, it’s nearly impossible to maintain eye contact while
thinking. With this in mind, maintain your eye contact until the point where you
need to consider your words. It’s okay to drop your eyes to consider the matter,
so long as you regain eye contact before you begin your answer.

By paying attention to your body language, life will begin to change for the better.
This is the cornerstone of the success waiting for you in your work and personal
life. You really can be everything you’ve always dreamed you could be.